I grew up in a turbulent household burdened by poverty, discord, and alcohol fueled problems between my parents. Although I was happy as a child, I was not given the opportunities to grow confident in who I was, or who I wanted to be. I had no guidance in proper dietary habits or lifestyle choices. The pressures and expectations of society confused me on how I should regard and view my sensuality and my body. I grew up fast and by the time I was in my late teens I was finishing high school, working full-time, and living on my own as I tried to figure out where life was going to lead me.

Being headstrong and developing my own confidence as I aged, I made efforts to build a better life than I had grown up in, through education and hard work. I remained close to my family but ventured out on my own paths and began my process of learning how to be a better person and the version of myself I truly wanted to be, physically, mentally, sensually, and spiritually.

A random blind date with a man in 1999, who would later become my husband, led me into a new world of learning about the complexities and marvels of the human body and mind. Together we continually learned and adapted in our efforts to make people around us healthier and happier, eventually leading us to start our own strength and conditioning business in 2008. Our education continued, as did our methods and applications of health and wellness with our clients. Through our hands-on approach, scientifically based principles, and accountability of our clients, we found our happiness in watching others overcome preconceived notions and obstacles, and over the course of fourteen years, we built the oldest and most successful CrossFit affiliate gym in the region prior to it’s sale in 2022.

Still, despite the fact I had an incredible marriage, beautiful family, successful business, financial stability, and comfortable lifestyle, I was personally far from perfect. I had digestive issues that wreaked havoc on me, metabolic derangements that slowed my weight loss progress and efforts. I fought battles with hormonal imbalances from bearing two children and being on various prescribed birth control methods for years, working out in excess, and my digestive issues. Additionally, I was not comfortable with who I was. The stresses and pressures of daily life, my health issues, and the notions of what outside sources and social media tell us women are supposed to act and look like was draining me.  I wanted to be more in control of my body, my mind, and my sensuality. Doctors didn’t help, they just told me nothing was wrong and tried to prescribe me medications to cover up the root cause.

One day I had enough and realized the answer lay somewhere else, far from conventional thinking and application. I was my own guinea pig as I tried numerous dietary and spiritual concepts for years until I found what worked for me and why. I discovered holistic approaches to medicine that, coupled with the science of food and eating, actually reversed clinical issues in my gut, body, and mind. I ventured into properly exploring the interaction of food, lifestyle, athletics, sensuality, and their effects on hormonal balance and, blended with guided hormonal replacement therapy, I made incredible changes to my body and sense of well-being. I discovered it’s okay to be spiritual and “different” in ways that relax and calm you, since the mind’s well-being is what truly controls the body’s well-being. I also discovered that while I was always strong and confident feeling, now I was truly in control of my mind and body and the empowerment I felt cannot be described or prescribed. I fell in love with my body and the pleasure I could provide for myself and my husband through surrendering to my desires and allowing myself to be sensually and sexually unbound. In short, I found out who I was, where I wanted to be, and what I wanted to do – I wanted to help other women feel like I do!

As time progressed, I learned that not only do women need some guidance in discovering themselves, the other key to a successful relationship also lies in properly educating men about female sensuality, and the intricacies of women! To that end, I began to work with men, utilizing my husband of 23 years to help me in uncovering the needs and wants of men. In conjunction with the up’s and down’s of our relationship and the incredible heights we have arrived at and my woman’s view on sensuality and relationships, I am now providing me with a new understanding of sintimacy and sensuality, and subsequently, an incredible, adventurous, and loving relationship!

Through these experiences, I have learned that no two people are the same, and there is no such thing as “one size fits all” when it comes to developing strategies to make a person healthier in mind and body. Coupled with my own personal struggles, I have been led down a path of seeking knowledge and solutions to help myself overcome obstacles in health regarding diet, hormonal balance, self-image, inner peace, sensuality, and my outlooks on life and love.

My education towards the betterment of women is a continual process. I currently hold several ANSI certified certifications through CrossFit, Inc. for athletic training and programming for adults and children, and CrossFit dietary certifications. I have a Level 1 Reiki Healing Certification through Healing Hands and I have successfully completed the renowned and comprehensive Health & Life Coaching Certification through HCI, Intl., including Coaching Mastery certification.

I won’t tell you I have all the answers – and anyone who says they do is lying – but I will tell you I am in this journey of transformation with you, and as part of you! I am no different than you, and I can relate to all of the frustrations and faults you may have. As your relationship and sexuality coach, I am in this journey with you and together we will find the answers!

~ Allison Joy